Courage to Change:
Amidst the constant turmoil and drama that surrounds most alcoholics, many family members and friends stop noticing what is going on with themselves. Something more important and life threatening always seems to intervene. In Al-Anon we learn to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. We deserve this attention, and we need it.
But focusing on ourselves doesn’t mean that we let other people walk all over us and pretend not to notice, or that whatever others do is acceptable. Nor does it imply that we should stop caring about our loved ones. Focusing on ourselves simply means that when we acknowledge the situation as it is, we look at our options instead of looking at the options available to other people. We consider what is within our power to change instead of expecting others to do the changing. As a result, problems have a better chance of getting solved, and we lead more manageable lives.
Today’s Reminder:
Today, if I am troubled, I will assess the situation and consider my options. I will not wait for anyone else to change, but will focus on myself and the part I can play in making the situation a better one.
“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson