Courage to Change:
By the time we reach Al-Anon, many of us are starving to be heard. We bask in the discovery that the Al-Anon rooms are safe places in which we can talk about the things that have been pent-up inside. We share, and the people around us nod with understanding. They talk with us after meetings and mention how much they identify, or they thank us for sharing. Finally we are heard and appreciated by others who have been there too.
This attention can feel so refreshing that we may be tempted to overdo it. Many of us fear to let go of this chance to speak openly, as if it were our last opportunity. But when any member regularly dominates the sharing at meetings, the group suffers.
In keeping with our Traditions, the well-being of the group must come first. That’s one reason sponsorship is such a valuable tool. Our needs for self-expression are real and should be addressed. A Sponsor can give us the time and attention we need to talk about ourselves and our lives.
Today’s Reminder:
My needs are important. Al-Anon helps me to find appropriate ways in which to meet them. I will take good care of myself today.
“Personal details are better left to a Sponsor who can lend a consistent ear and keep a confidence — someone who knows all about you and accepts you as you are.”
– Sponsorship—What It’s All About