One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:
We share with the alcoholic one common enemy: self-deception. The recital of a troubled Al-Anon prospect may be full of gruesome details of suffering; the story told by the alcoholic spouse may be equally harrowing, and to those who hear both sides it seems they are describing totally different relationships.
Each reacts in his and her own way to what is happening. Each unconsciously suppresses facts that might reflect badly on him and her, and exaggerates the other’s faults. Although the situation may sound unendurable, it appears that neither has any intention of getting away from it! Neither is in any state of mind to see it rationally until there is a change of attitude.
Today’s Reminder:
I will avoid making judgments in private contentions; there is self-deception on both sides which I cannot evaluate. I will guard against advising anyone to take a radical step he or she is not emotionally ready to take.
“Let Go and Let God is a good rule to follow when we are asked to give advice in a troubled domestic situation.”