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June 13 – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

By One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

An Al-Anon member of long standing writes of a tragic estrangement between her beloved grown daughter and herself. She had tried to prevent the girl from making what seemed to her a wrong decision, just as, years before, she had tried to compel her husband to stop drinking.

“Although I feared we would never be reconciled, I hoped I could find an answer in our program. I concentrated on the First Step: my powerlessness over others. What patience it took! What a constant temptation to take action, rather than leave the problem to God. But I made it–and it worked. The seemingly unyielding barrier of silence and, yes, hatred, melted away. We have learned again to love, by accepting each other as we are “

Today’s Reminder:

How often, in a crisis, we find it better to wait patiently for a problem to work itself out through a natural, inevitable process, than constantly to inject our own, perhaps misguided, control into it.

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” — Thomas Merton, No Man ls an Island

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973
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June 12 – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

By One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

It is really a pity we cannot go to market and buy ourselves a big chunk of sense-of-humor, just as we would buy a package of yeast. They do about the same kind of job: yeast gives lightness and pleasant texture and taste to bread; the bit of humor works to lighten the heavy seriousness of our daily living, and smooths out the rough spots in our communication with each other.

Today’s Reminder:

I want to remember, every time I’m tempted to take a heavy, somber view of a happening, that it may not be so bad after all. Maybe, if I look closely, it has an element of fun — fantasy, absurdity or even a relieving silliness. My mood makes it look black when I could spark it with a dash of rosy pink.

I’ll try to look for the things that can add gayety to my life, to offset the solemn or troubling ones. I’ll cultivate a knack for recognizing and enjoying humorous moments. This could be a really constructive way of detaching my mind from my daily difficulties.

“It is usually anxiety that bars us from seeing the lighter, brighter things of life. The anxiety exists within us, so we are free to reject its influence on the way we react to what happens to us.”

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973
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June 11 – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

By One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

Our inspiring slogans mean such different things to different people! One woman, faced by a crisis, may say confidently: “I will let go and let God.” In this case it is a courageous statement of faith that good must prevail, and that any decision she might have made, based solely on her human judgment, could have been unwise. She leaves the problem to God, expecting His guidance on what to do.

In another instance, Let Go and Let God may be a despairing statement of defeatism, an expression of apathy, of unwillingness to play one’s role in the task at hand.

Those who simply turn their backs on their problems are not “letting go and letting God” — they are abandoning their commitment to act on God’s inspiration and guidance. They do not ask for or expect help; they want the whole job done for them.

Today’s Reminder:

I cannot simply shrug off the responsibility for facing my problems, however great they may be. True, I need God’s guidance, but acting upon it is my job; I cannot evade it without turning my back on life itself.

“Let me not yield to apathy or defeatism, when in and all around me are the evidences of a loving God who will help me in all my need.”

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973
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June 10 – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

By One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

When a newcomer to Al-Anon tells his or her sponsor about the alcoholic conflict in the home, we must realize this is only one side of the story.

At first these reports of our grievances are highly-colored and dramatized by our confusions. A small incident may be blown up out of all proportion to its reality; constant tension, anger and frustration have deprived us of a rational perspective.

Growth in Al-Anon brings us to compassionate understanding of the alcoholic’s deep guilt and unhappiness. As we apply the program day by day, we become willing to acknowledge that we, too, must share the responsibility for the family troubles.

Today’s Reminder:

Al-Anon’s challenge to me is this: deliberately to cancel out my thoughts of grievances against others, especially the alcoholic; to face the real causes of much of my misery, and to believe that I can do a great deal to improve my life by rooting out my own shortcomings.

“If you are pained by any external thing, look to yourself for release from it. When circumstances cause you to be disturbed, return to yourself quickly; do not remain out of tune with the Universal Good.”

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973