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One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

The new member of a group is understandably upset, distraught and perhaps even desperate. Just as ours did in the beginning, her trials seem too great for a human being to endure. She is not yet aware that she may be making it worse by complaining, weeping and trying to outwit the alcoholic. All these things we learn not to do after we’ve been in Al-Anon for a time. Her recital may even be distorted by hysteria – this is natural, too.

All this should warn us not to make sweeping judgments on anyone else’s problem, or suggest making any decisions for her. We must help her become able to make them for herself.

Today’s Reminder:

No matter how unbearable a person’s situation appears, I know I am not capable of judging it, since I can’t possibly know all the factors involved. Nor can I measure another’s emotional pain by my own experience and feelings. But I can offer comfort and hope, and the healing therapy of the Al-Anon program.

“Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional.” – Eighth Tradition

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973