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Courage to Change:

I’ve heard acceptance mentioned at meetings as one part of the “Three A’s”—Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. However, I am inclined to try to jump from awareness to action without even pausing for acceptance. My thinking goes like this: “Something’s wrong! Quick, let me fix it before I have to feel any discomfort.”

The problem is that until I accept the situation, defect, or memory that has come to my awareness, I can rarely take effective action or live serenely with the consequences. The action doesn’t work or it makes things worse, and I feel helpless and hopeless. Even if it does work, I am usually too full of self-doubt to realize it. Most of the time, I still have to go back, sit still, feel the feelings, and come to some acceptance. It helps to be reminded that my Higher Power already accepts me and my situation—and loves me on the bad days as well as the good.

Today’s Reminder:

Moving from awareness to acceptance to action takes time, but the benefits are worth the wait. As I learn to accept my defects, circumstances, and feelings, I learn that I am a worthwhile human being just as I am. With that kind of self-acceptance, I begin to see my options, and slowly I can begin to take action, to change.

“…Someone suggested I stop concentrating on changing myself and think first about accepting myself. That gave me the boost I needed.”  – Alateen—a day at a time

From the book “Courage to Change”. Copyright Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1992