One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:
“There are some things I absolutely refuse to accept,” says a member at a meeting.
This is too often true of someone who suffers from inordinate pride or is unable to admit she is ever wrong.
Before I decide I cannot accept this or that, I had better examine my part in the deadlock. Were my expectations unreasonable? Did I demand too much? Am I being confronted with a natural reprisal for my rigid, uncompromising attitude?
If we have hurt someone or demanded too much of them, swift retribution may dismay or infuriate us. Shouldn’t we search out the causes and do something to correct them?
Today’s Reminder:
I may feel ever so justified in “taking a stand” but let me consider whether it was something I did that led to the crisis. To remain unyielding may result in disaster I am still less prepared to accept!
“We are quick enough at perceiving and weighing what we suffer from others, but we mind not what others suffer
from us.”
— Thomas A’Kempis