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Courage to Change:

In order to keep family and friends from interfering with their drinking, alcoholics sometimes create diversions by accusing or provoking. At such a time, we who have been affected by someone else’s drinking tend to react, to argue, and to defend ourselves. As a result, nobody has to look at the alcoholism, for we are too busy focusing on the particular point being argued — any topic will do. And unfortunately, what we defend against we make real.

When we take Step One, we admit that we are powerless over this disease. We do not have the strength necessary to fight it. Defending ourselves by engaging in arguments with actively drinking or otherwise irrational people is as fruitless as donning armor to protect ourselves from a nuclear explosion. Only a Power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity.

Today’s Reminder:

I am responsible for taking the actions necessary to keep myself safe. But when my safety is not at risk, I can take time to make choices about my responses. I don’t have to react instantly to provocation, and I am not obligated to justify myself to anyone. By turning to my Higher Power for protection, rather than my wits or my will, I avail myself of the best possible defense.

“Once we learned to see our situation as it really was, we understood why it was necessary for us to turn to a Power greater than ourselves.” – Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions

From the book “Courage to Change”. Copyright Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1992