Courage to Change:
Most human beings have an instinctive need to fit in. The urge to belong, to keep the peace, helps us to get along with others and be a part of society. This instinct has allowed many civilizations to survive, and is not harmful unless I lose my sense of balance.
People-pleasing becomes destructive when I ignore my own needs and continually sacrifice my well-being for the sake of others. Al- Anon helps me find a compromise that allows me to respond to my feelings, including my desire to belong, and still take care of myself.
The best way to maintain this balance is to build my self-esteem. When I treat myself with kindness and respect, I become better able to get along with others.
Today’s Reminder:
I will appreciate that all of my instincts and feelings exist for a reason. Today, instead of trying to banish these feelings, I will strive to find a balance.
“If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now — when?”