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One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

I cannot hurt others without hurting myself. This is a compelling reason for taking thought before I release words that might set off an angry interchange. Have I ever considered that the impulse to say something unkind comes from my own guilt and unease, which erupts in blows against others?

It may be a momentary release for me, but it returns like a boomerang to increase my own discomfort. Impatience with others only generates their impatience with me. Impulsive criticism at an Al-Anon meeting can affect the unity of the group on which I depend for my help.

Today’s Reminder:

If only I can learn to quiet my mind before I speak! I do not want to act with impatience and hostility, for I know it will react on me. It is a mistake to think this requires self-control; patience can be acquired by learning to let go of self-will.

“Whoever is out of patience is out of possession of his soul. Men must not turn into bees who kill themselves in stinging others.”
— Jonathan Swift

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973