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One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

When we hear an Al-Anon member say “Detach from the problem,” we react in various ways. We may think rebelliously: “How can they expect me to detach from my own wife or husband? Our lives are bound together and I am involved, whether I want to be or not.”

That is true, but there are kinds of involvement that can only make our difficulties worse. We make trouble for ourselves when we interfere with the alcoholic’s activities, trying to find out where he is, what he’s been doing, where the money went. Suspicion, searching and prying will only keep us in a state of turmoil, and make the situation worse, instead of improving it.

Today’s Reminder:

What we are meant to know will come to our knowledge without any action on our part. This is a basic spiritual truth, implicit in our slogan, Let go and let God. When action is really required, as when a crisis happens, we will then be better prepared to meet the emergency.

“He that is in perfect peace suspects no one, but he that is discontented and disturbed is tossed about with various suspicions; he is neither quiet himself, nor does he allow others to he quiet.” — Thomas A’Kempis

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973