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One Day at a Time in Al-Anon:

“The hardest thing for me to learn,” said a member at an Al-Anon meeting, “is to stop imagining that I can figure out why my husband acts the way he does. Automatically almost, I jump to conclusions about his activities and his motives. I know in my heart that I can’t read his mind, and that anything I attribute to him is probably all wrong. Even his worst moments—the times when I’m exasperated to the point of fury—may just be his unhappiest. How can I know? Why do I judge?

“Nobody but God understands what goes on inside another human being. Let’s not try to play God—or even psychiatrist!—to our troubled mates. Let’s not examine them as we would a bug under a microscope. I always want to remember that every human being must be respected for his own individuality, no matter how battered it appears at times.”

Today’s Reminder:

I will, today and from now on, examine my own role in all my confusion and despair. If I do this honestly, I will come to realize that I am not blameless, that there is much to be changed in me.

“How can he think the way I think, Or do just what I’d do? (I will remember, day by day, My love, that I’m not you.”)

From the book “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon”. © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1973